I am currently reading a wonderful book based on studies of different domestic violence situations. Interviews from the women and the men that found themselves in the actual abuse situation.
We have many aspects to address on this subject. One of them being, who is working with the problem, how, and what support are they receiving. By support I don’t mean financial I mean how are their daily lives changed by the stories and people that they meet? Stress and burning ourselves out is something science is beginning to take a look at. Studies show that therapists, police, firefighters, social workers, teachers, home care, doctors and nurses that meet these violent and abusive situations in their daily jobs often carry home the emotional weight and responsibility of trying to help, save, change these lives they come in contact with.
We have a new telephone line to call for all co-dependents and relatives, friends of those around domestic violence victims and for the victims themselves. We know families are torn apart by domestic violence but we usually concentrate on the immediate family. We tend to forget or not see the extended family‘s stress that is carried also. Every abuser has parents, every victim has siblings and so on. Wow, when we start to look at the situation like that is becomes much bigger and more serious.
I am pleased to say that we as a society are becoming more aware and being able to admit that violence damages much more than the immediate family. Co-dependency is much bigger and affects many more than immediate family. In other words FINALLY we are going to try to support those that come in contact with violence weather on the job, or in the family extended or immediate. I certainly hope I am involved developing awareness around this growing issue.
We are even able to get help from the humane society here! What you ask? Well there is a direct correlation between homes where animal abuse takes place to where domestic violence takes place. Even if the animal is not abused the threat of abusing, or killing the animal is used to keep children and spouses under the abusers control. Studies show that the abused parent stays longer in a family where there is a pet because they are scared to death of what will happen to the beloved animal family member when they flee. I never even thought about it before but it makes perfect sense doesn’t it.
So, teamwork. We need to share experiences and information and work together for the greater good.