If you have not been to an AA meeting i recommend going. It is amazing and educational. Just the people we tend to think of as scum of the earth or super-weaklings just may turn into super-hero before your eyes! If nothing else it never hurts to see and understand something from a new perspective.
If you have never been to an AL-ANON meeting i again strongly recommend going to an open meeting. All you have to say is you’re visiting, or there to listen. Even though you will be hearing personal and private things the regulars will embrace you and willingly share their life lessons.
Just one question I have often pondered. Why are there so many at the AA, NA etc meetings and we are so few at the AL-ANON? It is time for friends and relatives to be proud of the loved ones that dare to try to break these chains. To show our loved ones we support them and will also take responsibility for our part of the hell we off and on live in. It is time to take down the brick walls we hide behind my AL-ANON friends. If we dare together to stand for our situation we will find the strength and encouragement to change it. There will always be those that don’t support us don’t understand for lack of experience. They may even ridicule us. But I bet we have experienced worse! So, we can still love them and even understand why they don’t get it!
If you go to meetings, take a friend or loved one that you know needs to be there. Sometimes we are scared to go by ourselves, maybe we think the people at the meetings already have IT all together and they will look down on me. Guess what, no one has IT all together ever! That is a little of the lie we buy and try to fool each other with. Come and see. Come and share.